I’ve failed my son. I know this. It was inevitable, I guess, that being the second child, I’d drop the ball somewhere. We all hear about second child syndrome, and I’m very aware of it. We are a lot more relaxed second time around, and I don’t get so hung up on development, milestones and what others tell me. I go with the flow, watch for his cues and take it from there. But this has led me into this dire situation in which I now find myself…
He doesn’t know nursery rhymes. Yes, at the grand old age (he hasn’t a clue about the Grand Old Duke, by the way) of 20 months, I doubt he’d recognise any. OK, maybe Incy Wincy Spider, and Round and Round the Garden, but they’re more action songs, aren’t they?
I suspect that by the same age, Boo had been exposed to pretty much every nursery rhyme known to man. I vividly remember singing Sing a Song of Sixpence to her when she was still in her Moses basket. At four and half she still has one sung to her most nights, but Little Man? Nope.
Why, of why has this happened? Poor little thing. Well, I’ve narrowed it down to three key areas.
1 – When Boo was a baby, all the way through the toddler years, we’d play music at mealtimes and crafting sessions. We have quite a collection of nursery rhyme CDs and they were always on. Now? Yes, we still have music on, but it’s Boo’s ‘Now Disney’, or ‘Frozen’, playing again and again and again… Little Man does know ‘Let It Go’ 😉
2 – Boo was tricky to get to sleep. We lingered, we sang, we soothed. So she had nursery rhyme after nursery rhyme sang to her at naptimes and bedtimes. Little Man just wants to get into that cot, grab his dummy and taggie, and he’s set. No need to linger or chat, he clearly wants you to leave so he can get on with the important business of sleeping.
3 – Playgroups. We have failed on so many levels here. Boo went to them regularly, and there were invariably nursery rhyme sessions at them. Little Man does not go to any. Oh, the guilt! Firstly, it was because he always preferred morning naps, and all of our local groups are mornings, so we missed them. Now, though, I confess, it’s because I don’t want to get back into that routine just yet. When Boo starts school in September, we’ll return to that circuit, but for now, I’m just enjoying watching my two play together and on play dates.
But, I do want to take him out into the toddler world. We will go to groups, and eventually, he will have a few sessions at nursery. My fear is that this huge gap in his upbringing and education so far will be exposed and all will know. He will not hum along to Baa Baa Black Sheep and he will not lie down when he’s supposed to be a sleeping cow. OK, don’t panic. I have until September. We’ll cram…
Wish me luck!