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Where to Find Pen Pals

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As I write quite often here about sending snail mail, and I talk about it over on Instagram and YouTube regularly, I am often getting asked where to find pen pals. So today I thought it would be a useful post to share a few places to connect, a guide to where to you can find pen pals and start sending happy mail.

Why Have Pen Pals?

I adore putting pen to paper and writing a letter. There’s something so relaxing about it, and you do connect with people all over the country, or even all over the world. Then there’s that lovely feeling when you spy a handwritten missive in your pile of junk mail, and you just know you’ll be able to catch up on a friend’s news that day. I write to several people, pen pals that I have found over the years in many different places – it’s funny how they come about sometimes, and now they’re friends. Sometimes you’ll naturally stumble across people like this, but to get going with pen pals, it can be handy to pop to a few sites and sign up to get snail mailing.

I love being asked where to find pen pals, as it reminds me that this is a hobby that people are increasingly looking to take up, to get back into corresponding the old-fashioned way. The pretty way! So here are a few ideas for you to try.

Pen Pal Websites

The following sites are ways to connect with and find pen pals, some are free, just check the specific details of each one…

Pen Pal World
Letter Writers Alliance
International Pen Friends
InterPals Penpals
Instagram – just search the #penpalswanted hash tag and you should find plenty there!
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If you’re looking to send one-off snail mail, then please do check out Post Pals the charity helping you to ‘Post a Smile on a Sick Child’s Face’ by the sending of cards, letters, emails and little gifts to seriously ill children and their siblings in the UK.

Pen Pals for Children

I’m also a huge advocate of children having pen pals. It gives them a reason to put pen to paper, and it’s lovely for them to receive post, too. Obviously, you’ll want to be involved in this, as I’m sure you will be anyway as my girl shows me all of her post excitedly, and we pop hers in the envelopes together as we decorate them with washi tape. My daughter’s 7 and has 4 pen pals, all from different places. She writes to the daughter of one of my pen pals, a friend of hers that lives a few miles away and she sees a handful of times each year, a pen pal we found using a pen pal service at a festival and someone that I found for her through my friends on social media. She absolutely loves receiving letters and enjoys sitting down to write them as I’m writing mine. Perhaps your children have friends they don’t see that often? Or you’ve friends with children that might like to write? It’s a great hobby!

Pen Pal Sign Up

I also run pen pal sign ups here 3-4 times a year (you can check this page for details of monthly activities). They are always popular and we get a good mix of people across the world join in. Do subscribe to the blog or follow me on social media so that you spot when these sign-ups are running if you fancy getting yourself a pen pal or two, or even better, join the Bring Back Paper Club and join in the fun! The sign up form is at the bottom of this post.

Inspired? Found a pen pal? Then you might enjoy What to Write to Your Pen Pal and Snail Mail: What to Send. My Letter Writing Love Pinterest board is full of pretties to tempt you, too.

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